10 Practical Tips for Teaching Your Child to Be Thankful

In a day and age where even elementary school children casually sport expensive smartwatches, teaching your child to be thankful may seem like a tremendous challenge. That said, finding ways to foster a sense of appreciation in our children is a worthy endeavor, especially in a society that values excess. We want to raise appreciative children who don't take things for granted.

Teaching kids to say thank you is a fundamental social lesson, and there's a good reason for it. Cultivating gratitude not only enhances their relationships but also boosts empathy and overall happiness. If you're keen on reinforcing the significance of everyday gratitude or exploring ideas for teaching your child to be thankful during the holidays, check out these tips. 

What Research Says About Teaching Your Child to Be Thankful

While much gratitude research focuses on adults, there’s evidence that having a grateful heart is good for all ages. Research from 2008, outlined in the Journal of School Psychology, revealed that grateful preteens (ages 11 to 13) exhibit greater happiness, optimism, and social support. They also express higher satisfaction with various aspects of their lives. A 2011 study in Psychological Assessment showed that grateful teens (ages 14 to 19) experience increased life satisfaction, engage in community improvement, and display better academic performance. They are also less prone to jealousy, depression, and materialism compared to their less grateful peers. A 2010 study in Clinical Psychology Review linked gratitude to enhanced psychological and physical well-being, improved sleep, and longer life. 

More recently in 2018, the Journal of Positive Psychology reported that grateful adults are not only happier but also more hopeful. Gratitude emerged as a stronger predictor of hope and happiness compared to forgiveness, patience, and self-control. Moreover, people who were grateful for past experiences felt happier in the present and more optimistic about the future. Providing your kids with a grateful childhood may pave the way for a more appreciative adulthood. Another study from 2019, featured in the Journal of Happiness Studies, discovered that by age 5, gratitude is already linked to children's happiness. Early cultivation of gratitude may contribute to a happier adulthood.

Clearly, there are compelling reasons to help children experience and express gratitude. Let’s take a look at some strategies to foster a sense of gratitude in your kids.

Strategies for How to Teach Your Child to Be Thankful

1. Acknowledge acts of kindness

Highlight instances where people, including your kids, go above and beyond—helping without being asked, showing thoughtfulness, or dedicating extra time for someone. Let them know that you notice and appreciate their efforts, fostering a sense of recognition for their kindness.

2. Have a conversation

For some kids, especially younger ones or those grappling with emotional understanding, discuss how expressing gratitude positively impacts others. Ask them about their feelings when thanked for a kind act versus when they aren't. This reflection helps little ones understand the emotional benefits of gratitude.

3. Lead by example

Children pick up a lot by observing their parents. Demonstrate gratitude by sincerely thanking those who help you—be it a waiter, a neighbor, or someone holding the door. Extend this practice to your kids, appreciating their helpful actions, even if it's just putting away toys or hanging up their bath towel, reinforcing positive behavior, and letting them feel valued.

4. Bedtime gratitude

Incorporate gratitude into bedtime routines by asking your child to share three things they're grateful for. This practice, even on tough days, helps make sure there’s a positive end to each day for both you and your child.

5. Spread positivity

Encourage kids to appreciate those who assist them—coaches, neighbors, teachers, friends—with homemade cookies, cupcakes, or other treats. The process of making and giving fosters enjoyment while highlighting the interconnectedness of our community.

6. Recognize unique expressions

Be mindful that your child may express gratitude differently than expected. Some children may prefer hugs over verbal thanks or showcase appreciation through helpful actions or creative expressions. Acknowledging their unique ways reinforces your appreciation for the thoughtful individuals they are becoming.

7. Provide perspective

Discuss the varying circumstances of others with your kids (without causing fear). Understanding diverse privileges helps instill compassion and gratitude for their own advantages.

8. Empower their choices

Encourage kids to convert their interests into action, whether through school fundraising, a bake sale, or a charity run. Aligning their passions with charitable efforts boosts confidence and allows them to contribute positively.

9. Family involvement

If kids are too young or hesitant to engage alone, make giving back a family endeavor. Volunteer together or let your child choose a charity for donations. Shared acts of giving and gratitude strengthen family bonds and create lasting memories.

10. Make thankfulness fun

Explore diverse ways to express gratitude. If your child isn't comfortable with verbal or written expressions, brainstorm alternative methods together. It could be a smile or a thumbs up for someone holding the door or conveying appreciation to a loved one with a drawing or a smiling selfie, instead of a traditional card.

The Bottom Line on Teaching Your Child to Be Thankful

Cultivating gratitude in our kids not only shapes their character but also contributes to a brighter, more compassionate future. By leading with example, acknowledging kindness, and embracing diverse expressions of gratitude, we empower our children to navigate a world where appreciation and giving back go hand in hand. As we tuck them in at night and hear about their day's reflections, we witness the seeds of gratitude taking root. Remember, every "thank you" shared, every act of kindness recognized, and every unique expression of gratitude embraced is a small step toward building a world where appreciation flourishes, one heartfelt moment at a time. Cheers to raising grateful hearts and nurturing a spirit of kindness in the generations to come!

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